The scourge of conflicts, separation and divorce is hitting many marriages in our generation, even Christian marriages are not spared of this onslaught.
Many women have lost their husbands to strange women, as the Bible calls them and like our society would say ‘side chicks’, ‘slay mamas’, prostitutes and even younger girls.
The amazing thing about these outside women or ladies taking over other people’s husbands is that they are usually not as religious as the wives in the house. In fact, if they were God-fearing, they wouldn’t have gotten involved with married men because God considers that as adultery.
Anatomically, every matured lady or woman has the same type and part of the body although the size may vary. One can deduce from the anatomical similarities that it isn’t a missing organ in the wife that an erring husband is looking for in the ‘side chick’ , but a missing level of attraction which could be in the area of knowledge, skill or expertise. The Bible says, my people perish because of lack of knowledge.
The Bible described a woman of low morals in the book of proverbs, and also described the skill with which she takes over other people’s men. The skills gleaned from this woman’s story is what is brought to bear in this book, adopting these skills will go a long way in making your marriage affair proof.
At the inception of every relationship is attraction, whether professional, marital, spiritual or any other relationship. The attraction could be based on genuine love, certain expertise or an apparent benefit, but attraction is the magnetic factor in relationships.
Therefore, for heartbreak to occur, attraction must be lost.
It is not an achievement that a good person is attracted to you, the real achievement is sustaining the attraction over a long period of time.
When attraction is lost in any relationship, separation or heartbreak is inevitable. It is natural to walk out of relationships, organizations and even marriages that do not appeal to us any longer.
Statements like “He broke my heart after all I have done for him” are common around us. But truth be told, doing things for people isn’t necessarily what keeps them, it is doing the things they want for them that really keeps them with you. Hence, doing what your spouse wants, the way he or she likes it is the real job, and that is what keeps them attracted to you.
So the big question in retaining the attraction of our partners or lovers is WHAT DO THEY WANT?
The zeal to please them is not enough, it must be backed up with knowledge. This is because “knowledge precedes satisfaction”. You cannot please someone you don’t know in detail or understand their desires.
Romans 10:2 (NKJV)
For I bear them witness that they have a zeal for God, but not according to knowledge.
Physical qualities, bodily statistics, charisma, intelligence, and so on can spark initial attraction but character, deliberately learned knowledge-based skills and God sustains the attraction.
There was a woman in the Bible that had what it takes to make strong men come to their knees. Although the application of her deliberately learned skills were wrong and sinful, in that she used it to promote adultery than invest in her own home, but the efficacy and efficiency of her skills were undeniable, even the Bible showed us that her methods were irresistible even by the strong.
Proverbs 7: 18-19
Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with love. For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey;
Proverbs 7:26 (NKJV)
For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men.